Maybe I’m writing just for myself, or maybe you’ll understand where I’m coming from and you’ll want to join me on this journey. Either way, this is a 365-day social experiment to see if there’s such a thing as creating connections one step at a time. I don’t know about you, but for quite some time, I’ve been tired of being tired. I work long, chaotic hours. I have a 40-minute commute, one-way, and by the time I get home, it’s time to cook dinner and vegetate for an hour or two before going to sleep, and then I start all over when the sun arises the next morning. I can go six months without seeing my neighbors. My friends become the characters in my favorite television shows, and even among my own family, it’s difficult to have a conversation without a cell phone interrupting the gaze amongst us. I long for deeper connection.
In today’s techno-world, connections seem harder to come by. Everyone seems just as busy as I am, and finding time to have real conversations feels more than we want to do on some days. And if you’re a people-watcher like I am, even when you see a group of people out and about, often, their noses are glued to their cell phones. And isn’t it ironic that this connection conversation is happening on a blog?
About ten years ago, a dear friend of mine (who is twenty years my junior and a definite kindred spirit) and I began a conversation about developing friendships. A few weeks into our process, she told me she was moving away from middle Tennessee and back home to Olympia, Washington. So I put my journal away, and it lay dormant until just recently. Digging it out, I found the discussion we began is even more relevant a decade later.
Do you long for connection like me? Then, join me on this journey. I’ll offer a simple step each day. Let’s see where it takes us. I hope you’ll share your progress with me, and we can encourage one another. There are kindreds amongst us. We just have to look up from our digi-world and reach out to others who are looking for their kindreds, too.
DAY 1 HOMEWORK: Find five quiet minutes in your day to list out those friends over your lifetime who you would consider a kindred spirit. (Kindred spirit has many different connotations, so let’s just say for now: list those people you really connect[ed] with.)